The Four Year Itch…

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You see, the thing is, I started blogging four years ago without a clue where my path would lead. It all started with a faint whisper – a fleeting thought. (Who can wait seven years these days?) As time passed, the murmur grew. First to a soft voice then to one that said, “Go for it, jump in and swim, never look back.” It was the call of the unknown…an invitation to live.

This month marks four years since I carved out my own little corner of the internet and started blogging. To celebrate four years, I thought I’d indulge in a post about the subject. It’s not an exaggeration to say that blogging has changed my life. Four years ago, as I typed out my first uncertain words onto a screen (I was still a Twitter hater…duh), I was totally ignorant of what I was setting into motion. With a strong desire to write, travel, photograph and interview interesting people, I set out on a journey to be trusted with tales of hard work, determination and rich conversation. I soldiered on, undaunted by the amount of work it took to create a blog founded on the resolve to follow ones own path. Sure I had a voice, but staring at a blank page and standing out as an individual was easier said than done. Things get stale very quickly, especially on the Internet. Would I be able to create new content each week, worthy of hitting the publish button?

A great idea was only the first step. The Food Stalker was the door, but what I’ve done with the concept has enabled so many doors to open. It’s taken me on a rich path I could have never imagined. Blogging has led to new friendships. Real friendships with real people. Gratifying. Transparency and integrity are what I’ve strived for and believe that in the long run, people can smell that. The immediacy ability to get something out and on the record so to speak is empowering. The Food Stalker hasn’t been some made up character, it’s been me. An East coast gal transplanted to California, saying ‘yes’ to every crazy invitation life throws my way, ending up in places and moments I never dreamed of. Intriguing.

Why Food and Fashion? Because Food and Fashion are similar in that they both grip the senses. Chefs are copying fashion by making food look chic, making the people who go there to feel chic. Designers pretentious lifestyle leave the public only slightly fascinated. Think The Devil Wears Prada…yea, it’s that insane. There is beauty in both.

I’ve worked with some fantastic brands over the years and covered interesting, funny, compelling narratives from smart men and women; Delia Ephron, Thomas Keller, David Lynch, George Shapiro, Rachel Zoe, Stan Herman, Alexis Bittar, Ruth Reichl, Daniel Boulud, Hutton Wilkinson, Sara Silverman and Virginia Postrel to name a few. Travels have taken me to New York, Costa Rica, Sedona, France, Italy, Hawaii, Texas, London, Colorado, private islands and Spain. (I do believe I left my heart at Sa Tuna Beach along with my swimsuit!) I’ve been blessed to experience some of the best food, wine & scenery on the planet. There’s nothing like landing in a new city with a camera in hand, ready to seek out exciting stories. Relating to people from around the world is the first step to building empathy, something I think is important for travelers and people in general to have.

While racking up Frequent Flyer miles I’ve covered events in Laguna Beach, Malibu Farms, Beverly Hills, Hollywood, Pasadena and Santa Barbara Wine Country. San Fran, Napa and Sonoma are always calling me and dinner at The French Laundry was mind-blowing in every sense of the word. Foodie hallucinations was more like it! Stints at a local radio station gave me a whole new appreciation for Howard Stern and taught me a new craft. Perhaps the attraction is that each day brings something new. (Lest I forget, swinging from the rafters back stage at BR Cohn Music Festival with The Doobie Brothers and Paublo Cruise…epic!)

Whether it was stalking Wolfgang Puck for the Oscars, being told I couldn’t interview Chef Gilles Arzur at The David Lynch Red Carpet Event at The Beverly Wilshire Hotel or that I didn’t have a Press Pass for New York Fashion week, this Stalker gal always took a deep breath and thought of this famous line, “Nobody puts baby in a corner.”  It always makes me smile. Hey, it’s kind of fun doing the impossible…Mambo anyone?

As I mentioned in my last post, being curious is a very important aspect of staying young at heart, but below the gloss is often a lot of grit. Nothing stays the same, life is change and isn’t change good? Perhaps for me it’s the thrill of the unknown. I’ve been feeling a shift for something deeper, more meaningful. Funny thing as we mature, we think we should have it all figured out. If we don’t, that’s ok. I’ve been blessed to the moon and back with some amazing escapades and opportunity. Ones I would never have experienced had it not been for The Food Stalker. 

You have been most generous with your time and energy keeping up with this trend chasing style spy and I am truly grateful for your contributions. There are so many who continue to be supportive, inspiring me to do my best, sharing ideas, collaborating, catching a dreaded typo (I DIE!) Thank you for sharing my posts, re-tweeting my tweets and connecting. Most importantly, words cannot express my heartfelt gratitude to each and every one of you who have been loyal followers of The Food Stalker. Blogging is a strange wonderful thing — a super fun job, a creative passionate hobby, incredibly wide reaching and public and yet enables close relationships. At the end of the day, I feel pretty damn fulfilled. I get to do what I love and share the stories.

If that’s not fulfilling I don’t know what is…

Because I’m a Giver, here’s what I’ve learned:

* Pleasing everyone is impossible, pissing off everyone is a piece of cake

* Blog when you feel inspired. Write it down before the thought leaves you. Find your authentic voice, listen to it, then run with it.

* I don’t always make good choices, but I do have good stories. I’ve learned most of what I know by being told one thing, then doing the opposite. thankyouverymuch.

* All women should travel solo at some point in their lives. Don’t be a first-class clinger. Sheesh!

* You didn’t have to hang up on me the moment I said “The Food Stalker”!

* When you make your life public, there will be criticism.

* Find the bar. Obtain as much free booze as possible. Champagne is best.

* Take a selfie without looking like a fish waiting to be hooked.

* Give credit where credit is due and appreciate everyone who takes time to read your rantings.

* Wear what you want (not what other people or guys expect.) Wearing pajamas and slippers at noon is ok. You are a freak’n blogger for crying out loud!

* Just because I don’t have a traditional 9-5 doesn’t mean that my schedule is a free-for-all.

* If you don’t ask, the answer is always “no”. Things happen for a reason. When they do, take pleasure in them.

* Dry spells happen (and not just in the blogging world my friend!) Take time to be off the grid. You can do it! Get outside, meet a friend, recharge your batteries and come back refreshed with a whirwind of new ideas.

* One CAN do yoga in high-heeled boots

* Being human makes you more relatable

* I’m truly happy with my “real” life

*  I have no idea what I’m doing.

What have you learned from blogging? What are some of your favorite blogs and why? Comment and share. We can all benefit from sassy suggestions. 

3 Comments

  1. penelopeshackelford

    April 13, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    You’ve come a long way, Baby! Great job….keep on stalking!
    P.

  2. sallycoles2013

    April 29, 2015 at 6:55 pm

    Love this blog! The story behind the story from the woman interested in the stories of others in the world of food and fashion….as I have said many times, what an amazing adventure you’re having! Keep living the dream and telling the stories!

    • thefoodstalker

      April 29, 2015 at 7:01 pm

      Lemon Drop Sally, you have been a constant in the life of TFS. Always there for inspiration, ideas, laughs and most importantly “cocktails”! Adore you in every way! kiss kiss from across the pond.


With an Italian background, she cites her Mother and grandmother ( Mamie ) as the major influence of her love for food.  Yes, homemade pasta hung from the clothesline in the kitchen and rolling 100 meat balls for a holiday dinner was the norm.  Raised in Pennsylvania. she spent time in Atlanta, Georgia and ultimately settled along the stunning coast of Laguna Beach, Ca. Self taught in everything, she learned to appreciate the amazing flavors, scents and uses for exotic herbs and spices and applies her knowledge to cooking today. Despite enjoying other creative endeavors like painting, photography and clothing design, she realized she would never love another career the way she loves all the stories surrounding food.  And it's capturing those stories that has not only become her greatest passion but a culinary drug worth passing around!  After all, food is a shared experience and no one better to share it with than the entire world. And thus the Food Stalker was born, utilizing all that passion and her fearlessness to capture even the most impossible stories. It's one thing to write about food, but far more exciting to actually capture it and all those stories that make every scent come to life.  And once she sets out, there's no stopping her, because no one follows that scent better than her---and no telling where she'll end up next.  

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